LAUNCH: Parenting Tips for Raising Adult Children & Building Better Relationships

#25: Stop Comparing Your Kid: The Key to Helping Your Adult Child Discover Themself

Shari Jonas - Parenting Consultant, Educator and Author

Do you find yourself wondering why your adult child hasn’t reached the milestones others seem to have hit already—college, career, independence? Maybe you’re hearing other parents talk about their thriving young adults while you’re silently thinking, “Why is mine still stuck?”

Here’s the hard truth: comparing your child to their peers, siblings or even your own expectations isn’t helping them. And while it might come from a place of love and concern, it often lands as disapproval, disappointment, and pressure.

In this powerful episode, I’ll walk you through:

  • The Comparison Trap and it's silent message  
  • The ways it damages your child’s self-worth and motivation
  • Why it’s so common to compare, especially when you’re worried they aren't “launching” into adulthood
  • What to say and do instead that actually helps build confidence and growth
  • How to reconnect with your adult child by seeing them on their  timeline—not yours or anyone else’s. 

If your adult child is still living at home, struggling to find their path—this episode will help you shift out of comparison mode and into connection and self-discovery. It’s time to start appreciating and empowering them for who they are, their unique qualities and individual strengths —because progress starts with a new perspective, having "fresh eyes" on the late bloomer that is your child. 

Here are the 2 online personality surveys mentioned in the episode:

VIA Character Strengths Survey - https://www.viacharacter.org/

Clifton Strengths - https://shorturl.at/Yik0Q

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💻 My Waitlist is now open for Parents who want to take my online course: “Journey to Independence: A Step-by-Step Roadmap to Guiding and Launching Your Adult Child”

For more information and where to sign up, visit:  https://parentingfx.com/pages/the-parenting-course

I hope you’ll join me!

Do you want to know if your adult child is struggling with Failure to Launch? Grab the free Failure to Launch Checklist here: https://parentingfx.com/pages/ftl-checklist

🗣️I’m looking for a small focus group of parents who are willing to share their deepest concerns, their worries, and what keeps them up at night. Please email me: Shari@ParentingFX.com for the dates and times.

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